Ok, it's been almost 2 years, but my sharp mind has yet to return. I was always such an organized person, and I rarely forgot anything (except for where my keys were). However, since the accident, I can't remember anything. I forget when I have made appointments, I forget to send emails or return phone calls, I forget why I walk into a room, I can't remember birthdays, and I actually have to look at my address book to remember someones address and phone number (I NEVER had to do that before). It's incredibly frustrating and even more frustrating when people get mad at me for it. Grief can do really weird things to the mind. Another grieving mother told me that post-traumatic stress can cause physical brain damage. This damage and the stress over a loss can wreak havoc on the memory. So please don't get offended or annoyed with me or Ryan if we forget to say or do something....it's not intentional.
I am right there with you!!! I hate that fact of the grief process. Stock up on skicky notes!!!
ReplyDeleteAnyone who has ever suffer pain or loss of any kind should never judge and instead extend mercy and grace.
ReplyDeleteAlthough I can't say I've ever loved suffering, I am so thankful for it because God has used it in my life to see through the casual "Oh, I'm fine...doin' welll...praise the Lord."
What we do for someone simply by being silent...offering an encouraging word...a smile...a look of "I understand."
When we love one another and bear one another's burdens we fulfill the Law of Christ. We are then His hands and His feet (and mouth...and arms...and shoulders) to the MANY hurting people around.
By the way, I can completely relate both about the memory "once had" and the memory "now gone." If anyone had ever asked me what my greatest gift was, I would have said, "my memory." Now?
Yeah, I've had those offended, downright unkind, merciless people just judge me and think I suddenly became uncaring, rude, bad-mannered (etc) because I didn't send a card or thank you.
BE AT PEACE! AND SIMPLY KEEP TRUSTING AND WORSHIPPING THE LORD. HE "binds up the brokenhearted...and is acquainted with grief."